WHAT IS SELF-LOVE???
HOW IS IT THE KEY TO HAPPINESS??
HOW CAN I LOVE MYSELF??
Well, all these questions will be answered here even as you read on..
Self–love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. Self–love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. Self–love means not settling for less than you deserve. It also means being happy with yourself and content with the way you are. Even when everything seem blur, self-love always prevails….
Now, how is loving myself the key to happiness?? i presume someone is asking that already..
It is obviously not the only key to happiness but trust me its the only key to sustain happiness. how?? It might get to a point in your life where people will fail you, money will fail you, friends will fail you, husband may fail you, wife may fail you but you will not fail you…. funny right??? Its so true, let me chip in my life story… I attended an all girls boarding school from Jss1-Jss3, i was obviously pretty, i had many things to keep me happy, i mean, i was famous(so to say), i had enough friends, i had money but one thing was lacking; self-love. I never for once back then see any reason to like myself or even love myself though i was intelligent, i had basically everything but still i compare myself to other pretty girls in school and for one reason i always found fault in how God created me and that birthed sadness and what i would call depression. It continued on and on for years i lived my life in comparison and instead of bringing satisfaction, it brought more pain and depression not until i decided to love myself .. There were some steps i took to finally loving myself and it brought me to a forever love for myself… Listen, SELF-LOVE is the ultimate, no amount of love showered on you will make meaning if you don’t love yourself..
I have come across some girls and they often say “Debbie, nobody likes me”, “Debbie i don’t like my body stature” or “Debbie i don’t think anybody can love me”…. really???? and i am like girl, you are pretty can’t you see it, you worth more than a thousand men, you are wonderfully made, you are you, there is no other you… You need to see it and how do you do that? by accepting the fact that you are wonderful and you are unique….. i mean, just take a look at this pretty damsel.
Sometimes, i go to the mirror and i look at myself and i say; “Debbie you are pretty”, i really don’t need nobody to tell me that. Its ain’t a waste of time, it’s you accepting you…. I call this little exercise: SELF-LOVE THERAPY . Yes, just take a good look at yourself at the mirror, look at those tender eyes, there is just a pair of it and you have it, you alone, nobody else.
MY DEAR LOVE YOURSELF, that is the best gift you can give yourself.
Continue also to look at yourself in the image of Christ…. The bible said “Come let us make man in our image after our likeness” that means you are pretty, live in the consciousness of Christ daily. Yes, its part of the therapy too because obviously Christ is pretty/handsome so when you begin to see yourself in this image, you will come to love yourself…
Some of us may hate ourselves because of past experiences, just remember that; “In order to love who you are, you cannot hate the experiences that shaped you“… Hey, love yourself and to do that completely, you have to love the person you have become out of that experience. You cannot keep thinking about how bad your past life is and how stupid you behaved then and expect to love yourself. Yes, you made might have made a mistake or something, shake it off and love the ‘who you are’ now. The fact that the situation didn’t claim your life means, it brought you out for even something wonderful, you deserve an accolade my dear.
Always smile and say to yourself; “Hey girl you ain’t where you want to be but definitely not where you were, you are progressing”….. I mean, encourage yourself you deserve it….
SOME QUOTES TO HELP:
#Beauty begins the moment you decide to love yourself
#To fall in-love with yourself is the first access to happiness
#How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you
#Self-love is not selfish, you cannot truly love another until you know how to love yourself
#Self-love elevates you and keeps you going
#Be a girl with adventure, a lady with confidence, and a woman with bravery
#You worth more than a thousand man
#No one can predict your happiness except you allow them to
#Opinions do not define reality, BE YOU!!
#Comparison only leads to depression and sadness
#Smiles are contagious, ALWAYS WEAR ONE…….
Don’t always keep a straight face as if the world has ended, it really doesn’t matter what was behind, how you will end up matters the most….
And in all, Love God, HE is the master-mind of LOVE.
Be acquainted to the Holy Spirit, HE will teach you all things even how to love yourself!!!